One of the many side effects of marriage essentially entails losing one’s dear friends. And, in recovering from the sorrow of estrangement from paternal members, it is left as a wound that seldom heals. With time, friends with whom every wish was shared, are reduced to disregarded phone numbers and the several cherished moments take up cozy corners in the dark recesses of the mind.Continue reading
The following dialogue is repeatedly voiced in most Indian marriages: “The darker the color of mehndi, the greater the love of one’s spouse”. Now, such a futuristic assertion may sound exceedingly farfetched; but it nonetheless bestows a significant glimpse at the paramount importance held by the mehndi ceremony in an Indian wedding.Continue reading
In India, where a family is the most important social unit, arranged marriages have always held greater prominence than love marriages. Nonetheless, with time the latter too, has gained popularity and now a major section of urban Indians prefer it.Continue reading
Family, be it joint or nuclear, has always been given paramount importance by Indian women and naturally, the desire to be useful, as well as loving has invariably reigned supreme since time immemorial. And this is more true for those aspiring to be the perfect housewife after marriage.Continue reading
A popular belief holds that marriages are made in heaven – that every individual has his or her destined partner waiting somewhere. This is essentially fairy tale-like! But, what if this predestined partner belongs to a different caste? In India, where caste differences play a vital role in dictating the norms of survival, in what manner are such marriages seen?Continue reading
One vibrant image that keeps recurring in most Indian wedding songs unmistakably features an enthusiastic would-be bride, sitting prostrate with exposed body parts, smeared in a paste of dazzling yellow color – haldi.Continue reading
What is the singular attraction of heading home after a day’s long and tiresome work? Obviously, the warm hug of a loving husband. But, what if that loved person stays miles and miles away? Indeed, the prospect of distance in a long distance marriage looms large, much as a noncancerous facial mole that even after being harmless prevents a face from becoming flawless.
A familiar proverb state, “Better be alone than in bad company.” Well, the distressing reality of a divorce can perhaps be interpreted in a similar way. The separation of parents is indeed a painful affair for a kid, but what about the trauma that he may have endured due to daily bickering, the ceaseless hurling of mean abuses and at times, even fatal domestic violence between emotionally estranged parents? It then becomes imperative for the child that such uncompromising parents get alienated by a divorce.
How many children are affected by divorce: Examining the statistics
Several reports claim that nearly 50% of American children, born at present, are likely to witness parental divorce even before they turn 18. According to another research, one, out of ten kids of divorced parents, may witness them getting divorced again about three or more times!
This article seeks to analyze the positive consequences of divorce on children so that the experience, even though bitter, can be calmly accepted and survived.
The positive impact of divorce on children: An estimation
Assures a healthy environment: Recurrent observation of squabbles and ego clashes between parents builds up irritation and dejection in a child, eventually morphing him into a perpetually disconcerted individual, a misfit in any society. A divorce signifies a permanent termination of such power struggles and the child being distanced, no longer has to cringe in seclusion or make plaintive attempts to douse the bitter outburst. In fact, except the prickling remembrance of the split, there is nothing that can impede his natural emotional growth.
Aids in psychological growth: Often, it has been observed that children that go through the divorce of parents emerge more mature than those, nurtured amidst the protective guidance of both parents. While tackling unhappy parents, a child learns the bitter truth about life. He embraces the virtues of adjustment, patience, and empathy, adheres to his limitations and is better disposed to overcome the hurdles of life. Moreover, the ordeal of a divorce enables a child to grasp the truth that henceforth his mother or father won’t always be there for him. And, it is this realization that makes him self-sufficient.
Allows each parent to be extra attentive: Most parents caught up in the daily chores of routine survival, can hardly spare some valuable time for their kids. After that, if marital disputes become an unavoidable appendage, then the word “family” gets reduced to a mere sham. The detachment enforced by a divorce enables each parent to think more about the welfare of his child. Consequently, the kid also benefits from the added vigilance imparted by each parent. He relishes the undivided attention and in the long term, has a better understanding of each parent.
Promotes adaptability through living in extended families: Often, a divorced father or mother remarries and thus there is the inclusion of household members such as a step brother or sister. Now, though initial acceptance might appear as a precarious threat, it is through the bittersweet co-mixing of both that the seeds of togetherness and resilience get germinated.
When a part of our body, say a leg or a finger gets infected and decays, the doctor generally recommends the portion to be severed so that the other organs remain safe. A broken marriage that shows no signs of recovery and only incites harshness, receives a somewhat similar resolution through a divorce. And it becomes particularly significant for the poor kid, for though there remains the agony of separation, there is the promise of a better life with new possibilities and resolute dreams.
What can be the most cherishing sight for a mother? The smile on her child’s lips undoubtedly. But, what about working mothers, who are passionately committed to career development as well? Why, the same bewitching smile. Now, there’s a little-overlooked reality, especially about working mothers. Hopelessly compelled to divide their time between unavoidable work and precious family, working mothers become self-acknowledged survivors of guilt and stress.Continue reading
Remember the Jennifer Lopez starred movie, “Monster In¬ law,” where an enthusiastic Lopez has to wrestle with the crafty ministrations of her sly mother-in-law, played by Jane Fonda? Well, truth can be stranger than fiction, and if your mother-in-law happens to share an alarming similarity with Fonda’s character, it’s time to keep her on her toes. How to do so? Take a quick sneak peek at the article.Continue reading